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Love Smarts for Better Convos

Communicate like YOU, work through defensiveness without losing your voice, and use EFT tapping to tame your knee-jerk reactions

Get Hot 'n' Healthy!

You know the thing you keep meaning to bring up?

The chores.

That WTF comment at your friend's party.

The airport Uber that "totally wasn't a big deal."

You've practiced what to say in the shower. You've predicted all the different ways they can respond. You've got a whole choose-your-own-adventure flow chart going ...

But when you're actually sitting in front of the guy you've known for years?

You feel like you're in 7th grade.

"Tee hee ☺️ why do I feel so distant from you?"

So you don't bring it up.

Or it comes out impulsively when you're leaving for work and it turns into a fight.

Or you try a communication technique with your best Zen Calm Voice ... and it feels so awkward that you change the subject immediately.

So you "agree to disagree" and you go back to being a low-maintenance partner.

Relationships are about compromise, right?

You can just write about it in your journal, vent to friends, anything BUT actually resolving it with them ... which truly doesn't seem possible.

Sound familiar?

If you're anything like the lovebugs I've worked with, you see defensiveness as a stop sign. The second your partner starts justifying something, it's like you hear the "wrap it up" music at the Academy Awards.

You can't have a mature conversation if they're not gonna take accountability, right?

... actually ... ?

You'd be surprised.

Defensiveness isn't always in the way of the breakthrough.

Sometimes it's the road TO the breakthrough ... if you know how to hack it.

What if defensiveness is a sign that you're onto something juicy ...

Like in a video game when the monsters get crazier the closer you get to the castle.

Letting go of the shame didn't just make me feel lighter. Lowering the volume on my Inner Mean Girl gave me more wiggle room with my actual symptoms.

Don't get me wrong; I didn't become neurotypical or anything (OMG can you imagine?! 😬)

(JK a lot of my closest friends are neurotypical.)

But when I'm not spending half my energy fighting and hiding my ADHD, I can actually thrive with my brain ... not just in spite of it.

And that? Is why I started the tapping library.

EFT tapping is a quick, calming, empowering technique that you can use for basically anything.

And? It's not boring

(I'm looking at you, meditation ... 👀)

It's exactly what it sounds like: you use your fingers to tap on acupressure points on your face and body while you talk out loud about whatever is stressing you out.

Tapping rewires your nervous system to handle the tough stuff. And that feeling lingers even when you're not actively knocking on your collarbones about it.

In the Too Much Club videos, I give ADHD-specific examples of targeted tapping language so that you can follow along, feel the shift, and then adapt the wording for whatever life is throwing at you 🙃

Oh and btw ... if you've tapped before but it felt little too "Live, Laugh, Love" for you?

Hiiii I'm Lizzy, a witty former theatre kid and late-diagnosed AuDHD lovebug who knows how important it is for healing to be FUN.

So if you're ready for Spice Girls references, sassy callouts, and a healthy dose of cussing ...

... we need you in The Too Much Club!

You in?

What's inside?

Six pre-recorded tapping videos to shift your relationship to the toughest parts of ADHD, like:

🧊 Feeling like you can't start tasks

❤️‍🩹 Rejection sensitivity

🔄 Rumination

🪦 Returning to the graveyard of abandoned hobbies and habits (yes it is possible!)

😶 Impatience ... can everyone talk faster please?

... and more to come on money, communication, and time drama

You're in the right place if ...

✅ You have ADHD, whether it's diagnosed, suspected, or "I haven't been assessed because I don't have the executive function to get assessed"

✅ You've somehow always felt like you were too much but also not enough ... and you're ready to stop apologizing for it

✅ You've ever Googled "unhinged tips for productivity," "how to be less awkward," or "where can I donate gently-used craft supplies ... or gently-used fencing gear ... or gently used [insert hobby-of-the-month]?"

✅ You want to stop fighting with your brain and start being besties with it

If this sounds like you, you're just the right "Too Much" for us!

And btw if you're reading this like: "How is this bish in my head?!" ... it's because I've been through it too.

Hi, I'm Lizzy.

EFT tapping practitioner and late-diagnosed AuDHD lovebug.

I'm best known for relationship coaching, but turns out?

Managing my ADHD has been one of the most powerful things I've done for my relationship. Don't get me wrong: communication tools and attachment theory are great. But when I tapped on my ADHD stuff, I couldn't deny the glittery iridescent magic that rippled out to my partnership.

I leveled up my confidence to follow through on tasks. I got a better handle on my finances. I learned to hear my partner more deeply without crumbling from rejection sensitivity.

What I realized?

Was that working on my ADHD wasn't separate from working on my relationship. It was the piece I didn't realize was missing from understanding myself and how I show up for the people I love (including myself!)

I didn't build The Too Much Club because I had it all figured out. I built it because I wanted more people to know how tapping gets right at the root of ADHD.

And that there's sometimes more wiggle room than it seems, once that Inner Critic has left the chat 😉

Real talk?

The world NEEDS your ideas, your spunk, and your tangents. And you have the power, literally at your fingertips, to show up in all your "Too Much" glory.